“will you marry me?”
he asked….or she asked….well, someone asked &
the answer was a resounding & heartfelt “YES”….there is undoubtably a ring, perhaps tears, or laughter, or both….
kisses, lots of kisses…phone calls….and then at some point the wedding panning
begins….You have now entered your “engagement” period….a very special time…
now you know, for sure, that this is the person you are going to spend your life with…
maybe you had an inkling of it along the way, but now you KNOW…there is a beauty, a peace
in knowing….whether a brief or very long engagement, this is a very special time in every couple’s
relationship….chances are many discussions & most of your focus becomes the plans
for your big day….& certainly a wedding is a wonderful heartfelt celebration….
but what about your engagement?? a wedding is a day in our lives, a special day to be sure, but in comparison to an engagement (most engagements that is), it is a brief moment in time…that as we all know is most likely going to be very well documented…of course as a wedding photographer this is a very important part of my life…to be absolutely clear i LOVE weddings…i am a true romantic & love the variations of affection & vows & decor from couple to couple…i feel very lucky to photograph so many weddings….i just feel the need to point out that an engagement is just as important as a wedding…it is in my humble opinion, a right of passage… & as such must be honored & treated with respect….it is not merely a “waiting” period….but rather most couples are navigating the treacherous terrain of each other’s families & customs, & seating preferences, oh my….couple’s that stand side by side through this process  & remain reasonably unfettered are laying the foundation for a strong marriage…for we all know how complex family dynamics can be….anyhow, my point is this….
ENGAGEMENT is to MARRIAGE
as
PREGNANCY is to PARENTHOOD
i think we most will agree that pregnancy is a significant part for many people of becoming a parent…& birth all though a rather important moment in all our lives, is just a moment….pregnancy, just as an engagement is a vital period of growth before the special moment in time, your wedding…the life of a child & our journey as parents is most like a marriage, it is longer a more complicated than anyone can really imagine or explain…(i realize some people adopt & become parents in different beautiful ways, i merely trying to make the point that an engagement period is an important one)….with that said….i hope you view the the time before you exchange vows…..
your engagement is a vital magical part of your relationship…i believe that documenting this time in your love story is absolutely worthwhile….if you are able to set aside the time & are financially able, by all means hire a professional photographer to capture engagement photographs of you & your betrothed…if you are not, do not throw the baby out with the bath water, so to speak, & scrap the idea of engagement photos all together….instead recruit a friend or family member (preferably someone you feel comfortable showing your affection to each other in front of) to take engagement photographs of you….treat it like special occasion….photographs are art, whom - ever creates them…so be sure to honor your love & make a little art of your life…carve out some time, so you do not feel rushed….be thoughtful about your outfit…& pick a place that is beautiful, or has special meaning to you….do something that celebrates this incredibly meaningful time in your life….please…
i speak not only as a photographer, but as a former bride who did not do any engagement
photographs….at the time of our engagement, life was busy…plus i was trying to scrape together
every penny we had to put towards our wedding (which was indeed magical)…but i could kick
myself for not taking the time to do engagement photos…it was such a happy time for us…&
seriously i have so many friends that are photographers…what was i thinking???
in any case, let me leave you with this…no matter how beautiful & amazing your wedding is, & your subsequent wedding photographs are….you can only blow up & frame so many images from your wedding before you freak your friends out…engagement images have a more day to day feel & you can display here & there i think with more freedom….on a more personal note….after our wedding, on a trip to france, a dear friend took some sweet photos of my husband & i embracing…. last year i framed one & gave it to my husband as a gift….it now sits on his bedside & we both see it every day….the image captured a tender moment between us, one that reflects the sweetness of days gone by that are reminiscent of our courtship….which as most married couples will understand has now been replaced by the demands of day to day life & the realities of marriage…now don’t get me wrong, our marriage is wonderful, but it does lack some of the subtle & not so subtle sweetness of courtship…i secretly think that seeing this photo of us hugging every day before we go to sleep & again when we wake up in the morning helps us remember to “hug” everyday….
& please don’t tell but, i pretend it IS our engagement portrait…xoxo….elizabeth
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this article was originally published on THE HUFFINGTON POST

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AMANDA (of 100 LAYER CAKE) & TIM are getting married

& i had the honor of photographing them a couple of months ago in palm springs…engagement photos are so full of love & anticipation, & these are no exception…in fact not only were TIM & AMANDA sweet & lovely, they were stunning…it was a wonderful day…stop by 100 LAYER CAKE today to congratulate the happy couple & see some of AMANDA’S favorite engagement photos…& if you still can’t get enough, be sure to browse the new issue of UTTERLY ENGAGED…you’ll find these lovebirds on the cover & in a beautiful 20 page spread inside…love is definitely in the air…

…. Her Kiss & Tell….

“I had a big crush on Tim for awhile before we dated, and I’m pretty sure I saw a multitude of stars, planets and fireworks on our first kiss. My friend Jillian (yes, of 100LAYER CAKE) had a party at her house and after the guests had all gone home, she decided she would take fate into her own hands. She pitched a tent in her living room and invited Tim and I to join her and hang out inside. A few minutes later she left us, laying in the tent alone together (Thank you, Jilly!) We talked for awhile, about all sorts of things.. conversation came easy with him. Then he reached over and grabbed my hand.. and we held each others’ hands for quite some time. It was the sweetest thing, and I never knew hand-holding could be that intense. Then of course he leaned over for a kiss. That’s when it all became a blur of pink clouds, fireworks, and rainbows.”
-Amanda remembering her 1st kiss with Tim
…. His Kiss & Tell….
“Indoor camping at it’s finest!  I don’t know why our friend Jillian had a tent in her living room, but she did, and we ended up in it.  We held hands like a couple of school kids for a while until I gathered the courage to reach over and kiss her.  At that moment, our tent could have been on top of a mountain, or in the middle of the Serengeti.  It didn’t matter because the world outside ceased to exist — it was just the two of us, and nothing else.”
-Tim remembering his 1st kiss with Amanda
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CONGRATULATIONS AMANDA & TIM
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when i was younger the phrase “love life” was so full of mystery & romance…i wondered if i’d ever have a “love life”…then there were the in between years…filled with longing & heartbreak…my so called “love life” sure wasn’t what i thought it would be…now i can say with sincerity & to be honest a little bit of surprise…i LOVE my LIFE…so that is it…”love life” is so much more than a kiss (although i am a big fan is a proper kiss)…it is loving the life we have…now my life is admittedly a big mess(literally) most of the time…i have bad days, sleepless nights, things i need to work on etc…but HAPPINESS is not the absence of all the is wrong in your life, but rather accepting & cherishing all if it…the good the bad & the ugly…and the kisses & laughter & jeans that won’t fit..it is, for me about being exactly where i am…so today is a good day….today is our wedding anniversary & i am feeling all kinds of lucky…to all my single girls out there, let me tell you that i had lots of single (& often sad) years…what i know is this…LOVE is possible…not the kind that hurts your feelings…but the kind that just is…well, a mess….a big beautiful mess….something happened this morning that pretty much sums it up for me…our youngest daughter crawled into our bed at about 5:30 am….she had, peed in her bed…again….her little warm sweet body snuggled up to me & we lay together half awake….she looked over at the pile of sheets, blankets & pillows that covered her father (he likes to sleep completely buried in the bedding) & she looked thoughtfully back at me….then she said, quite matter-a-factly “dad sleeps like a mouse”….i laughed so hard i nearly woke him up…so that’s it…her bed full of pee, awaiting another trip through the washer & drier…my husband wrapped up in the sheet like a mouse(this is extra funny because my husband is a tall athletic man, nothing at all like a mouse)…it is in these simple absurdities that fill  my life that i have found my “love life”…wishing everyone a life full of love & laughter…& mr moore…i love you so very much…thank you for…everything….xoxo

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for those of you who may need to get ahold of me…i am planning
on not answering the phone or returning any emails…i am gonna
celebrate & hang out with the “mouse” all day long today…

xoxo, mrs moore

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“Took this love and I took it down
Climbed a mountain and I turned around
And I saw my reflection in the snow covered hills
Till the landslide brought me down

Oh, mirror in the sky, what is love?
Can the child within my heart rise above?
And can I sail through the changing ocean tides
Can I handle the seasons of my life?
Oh oh I don’t know, oh I don’t know

Well, I’ve been afraid of changing
‘Cause I’ve built my life around you
But time makes you bolder
Children get older I’m getting older too
Yes I’m getting older too, so

I’ve been afraid of changing
‘Cause I, I’ve built my life around you
But time makes you bolder
Children get older
I’m getting older too oh yes
I’m getting older too

So, take this love, take it down
Oh if you climb a mountain and you turn around
If you see my reflection in the snow covered hills
Well the landslide will bring you down, down
And if you see my reflection in the snow covered hills

Well maybe the landslide will bring you down
Well well, the landslide will bring you down”

FLEETWOOD MAC
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